Love does not envy

*picture sourced from inkspirationalmessages.com

If you could ask anyone who knows me, they would tell you that without a doubt I’m a total sucker for love and anything that comes with it (love songs, celebrity couples, romantic novels, chick flicks and so on). I’ve always been keen on the idea of love and being in love even before I started dating…so you can imagine what expectations I had in mind for my first boyfriend-but that’s a story for another day. I would cut out pictures of hearts and roses and even highlight the word ‘love’ on my dictionary. (I was 12. Don’t judge me).

It was only when I grew up and was in my late teens when I realised how most girls love chick flicks as much as I did and that’s because such movies portray this idea that every guy should buy you roses and take you out on romantic dates and you guys get married and live happily ever after .Movies have led many of us to believe that love is characterised by how you look, how much he earns, how tall he is, and how you guys can meet today and suddenly come to a conclusion that you both have found “the one”. They have silently made us believe that allowing someone to mistreat us could be forgiven with the words “I’m sorry” written in the sky.

What they fail to teach us is that we are all imperfect. There is that moment in our life where expectations and fantasies that we have created for other people do not happen and its okay. Relationships are not based on lies, appearance, money or expectations. A healthy relationship is characterized by honesty, trust, communication, true love and yes, even those little arguments about whose turn it is to wash the dishes. In reality, the people we love WILL disappoint us as much as we will disappoint them.

So, instead of watching a movie and dating a guy similar to Edward or Jacob from Twighlight, rather wait for the relationship that will put all the movies and chick flicks to shame and lasts way longer than 2hours!